Be With Your Kids in Refining Their Bonds With the Grandparents

The story teller+ the playing partner+ the babysitter+ the philosopher+ the old friend+ the guide+ the teacher+ the child+ the financer= sums up to “grandparents.”

Unfortunately, with the rise of the neutral family has led the grandparents and the grandchildren far from each other. Nowadays, only parents and children stay in a solo house, whereas, the old parents of the kids’ parents live outside in another shelter or end up in the old age homes.

But, the presence of grandparents is needed for the overall development of the children. The cruel world and the selfish needs of the humans make them wholly self-obsessed and hence, the actual bond of relationships between the members is vanishing rapidly.

We only think of ourselves. Plus, the tight schedules interfere with the quality family time. Grandparents lay a great impact on the kids’ social and emotional well being. The little children can look up to their grandparents as role models. The sense of cultural heritage can be infused in the kids. The essence of safety, love, and care comes from the grandparents with ease.

Parents must understand that there is nothing wrong with the bond of the grandparents and grandchildren. Rather, it is the one of the purest form of serene relationship cuddled with lots of true endearments and emotions.

Now, let us get an in-depth explanation:

The child’s healthy evolution depends significantly on the grandparents. It has been seen that the weekend trips to grannies home lessen the whole week’s traumas and stress from the kids’ minds. We can’t deny the playing time of the oldies and the kiddies together is a pleasant scene that improves the learning and behavioral skills of the little kids.

What are the essential roles that the grandparents play in the kids’ lives?

Historian of the family

The family tree marks the senior's name first, then the middle ones, and finally the juniors aka babies. The elders share their life experiences, family origins, progenitors, lineage of the generation and the journey from the earlier times to the present time. The kids get the quintessence of the identity and the traditions through the family stories.

Playing role models

Both playmates and idols- that’s what a grandparent presents his/her grandchild. The creative play buddy, the problem-solving partner as well as the mentor- grandparents can be everything besides the biological parents of the kids. It has been observed that adolescent kids often fight with their moms and dads and take shelter in grandparents’ home where they get the solution of the issues and cool down. The relationship between the parents and children are strengthened by the forbearers.

Excellent adviser

We grow following specific beneficial advice from our ancestors. Grandparents are the first-rate advisers. Their vast experiences both on internal and external aspects save us from troubles. Their words have positive influence on the kids’ attitude and thought process.

The wise efforts, interests, and supervision of the grandparents enlighten the little members of the family to take the right moves.

Majestic nurturer

The interaction between the both let the kids build trust outside the home and make perception of the dominant society and the concurrent norms.

An ardent request to the parents from my side:

Have your read “The Seven Ages of Man” by Shakespeare?

You will understand that when people get old, they become alike to the children again.

Kindly prohibit from sending the grannies to the old age homes or separate them from your present family. When you were mere babies, your parents didn’t leave you. Now, it’s your time to repay their care, love, sacrifices, and compromises. Parents don’t ask for any favor to their offsprings. No parent can be wrath on their children. Don’t leave them alone. Instead, it is our prime duty to take care of our wellsprings till their last breath. I really wish to shut down all the old age homes in the world and also desire to see them residing with their children and grandchildren together happily in a single household.

Coming back to the safety issues:

The elderly members of our family are old enough to handle naughty busy bees. So, make a checklist and discuss with the grey-haired seniors to make the home childproof. Keep the harmful items like medicines, cleaning agents, knives, razors, needles, coins out of their reach.

Parents! Be the teacher of your parents:

Teach them the usability of the advanced technology like smartphones, computers, etc. that were not present in their younger days. They used to call from those big and bulky telephones. Therefore, it will be advantageous for both of you if you give them the access to modern gadgets to connect and get anything they wish and in emergency.

Take your child to the grannies home frequently or if the later already stay with you, let the kids spend quality time with them. Refinement of bonding between the grandparents and grandchildren will nourish the whole family.